With the continuation to my last story about the most important journey of my life-Mumbai, this is the second part of what I actually understood and learnt from the experience. I want to share this with you all as I know there are many girls out there who might face these ordeals but succumbs, I want them to believe in themselves and stand for what is right instead.
It is quite easy for our Indian mindset which is always biased towards men and follow patriarchy in most regions; to treat women with bitterness and untoward treatment. All around there are numerous families where a man earns for the family and the women are housemakers. They are treated with disrespect, indifference and hypocrisy. Either you are living in urban, rural or suburbs of India, this is the harsh truth that comes without any discrimination of caste, religion, creed, race and upbringing. We completely ignore the fact that every living being has a right to express and live their life. We might have come to terms with our home environment where the majority role is that of a woman , the male makes it seem like he is the only one responsible for the bread and butter. This might hold true for some and exceptions are happening all over the world with the right system of education and learning. Still in my mind I had to clearly state this topic openly through my words, I hope it reaches the one it is for.
So, I would like to make it easy with logical pointers.
-Stop procrastinating your deeds, how you treat another being is just a reflection of who you are as a person deep inside. This might go on for a span of time but everyone faces their reality somehow.
– Stop misbehaving with your woman , even she has heart. She makes your living much comfortable even if she has to face the challenges you give her everyday. She deserves to have a say in every decision, she deserves to be respected, she deserves care, she deserves love, she deserves warmth, she deserves to be who she is in her own skin. Don’t make her feel that she is some commodity belonging to you.
-Stop pushing her own identity away, let her have her space , her beauty is unknown – explore it! She might not mention it, she does needs her independence once in a while where she can be herself and just relax!
-Don’t ever use violence for your cowardly actions. Of course this happens in almost any relationship where one person dominates the other and physically, mentally or emotionally uses violence to hide his own weaknesses. Such acts show how shallow personalities try to take over the stronger ones by force.
-Stop patronising your own image, stay honest to yourself. Everyone will see their fate here on Earth only, whatever you will do will come back to you. It is your choice to make sure what comes to you is happiness.
-Don’t always expect her to take charge of children, family, chores, her own job, and on top of the routinely issues you become the greatest responsibility that she has to cater to. Her needs are avoided just so you can live a life.
-On top of all protect her, nurture her, empower her, educate her, help her, understand her, be polite to her, just don’t be another nincompoop whose selfish attitude destroys a beautiful being! She just needs you to treat her equally and provide her with bright sunshine when dark clouds surrounds her.
These pointers are just a quick reminder that one can actually be happy and contented in his/her life. There is no doubt that each relationship comes with duties and compromises but how you deal with them will change the following consequences. We, in an Indian society, still don’t appreciate what needs to be appreciated. Wonderful is our life which gives us a chance to wide open our horizons and concentrate on becoming a learner and seeker. The potential to grow as a person is in our hands, take this as an opportunity to reach the inner conscience and make life bloom in every aspect. Accept, forgive, forget, learn and develop again.. Do not stop and become stale, create a better tomorrow say how I was yesterday I will be better today. What happened in the past can’t hold us from the present, enjoy and say never again!